I totally understand that! Stay away from the losers. If u can find a hardworking man then your good... And preferably someone who doesn't own video games ;-) hardworking doesn't always equate to lots of money but it assures you that you and your daughter will be taken care of at all times because if he is willing to work 10x jobs for 40k a year that's better than no job and no money I was probably referring to the true gold diggers out there.... Whom I sincerely dislike. You need someone who has a heart that is willing to provide for u both at all costs. Just my 2cents